Thank you for the healing vibes and the reply.
When this first started and she mentioned papillomas (after the ultrasound), I e-mailed her
http://imaginis.com/breasthealth/benign.asp
Hers is not involving the nipple, so we were "sailing along" thinking it was just benign until this "atypical" came up after the "wire biopsy" and the speeding up of the tests and surgery date occurred.
I now suspect that her situation is similar to yours (possibly precancerous, but I don't know that for certain). She has Lupus (extreme fatigue and joint pain) and fibro and asthma and allergy to rubber/latex, so she has to take in her own ceramic mask and plastic tubing for the anesthetic or for oxygen because of her asthma? Maybe for the asthma, because it sounds like they will give her a "twilight med" as opposed to general anesthetic.
She sees him tomorrow for pre-anesthetic discussion/forms etc and is trying to find a way to back out of this. So she saw the surgeon today and surgery is booked for Monday. She tried to wiggle out of it by asking "since it's thought to be benign and I've had lumps for years, can I just skip this and keep the lump? " and the surgeon replied "certainly not".
There's no point (nor time) to go to her family doctor because they've already told her that the biopsy of all the tissue to be removed will tell them whether it's totally benign (or not), so the sooner it is done, the better, so we can all breathe a sigh of relief and move on to healing.
I wish you well Catherine, perhaps we'll all be celebrating in a very short time.